Men love, Women do not
Women don’t love, they only care for themselves.
Loyalty and friendship are concepts no woman can ever fully understand. It’s not deliberate, it’s in their nature—it’s evolution. A woman will unconditionally love her offspring only—if she is a good mother. Aside from this, women love conditionally and opportunistically. You can’t change that. But once you know it, you can act accordingly.
Women are incapable of loyalty and friendship towards men, just as men are incapable of giving birth.
The reason people accept the existence of unconditional love script is childhood. Your parents loved you with all their hearts and the template for what love is supposed to be was set during those early years. You loved them back in the same unconditional manner. And it was great. But your woman is not your mom. She is a fickle-minded person who’s most likely looking out for a prettier branch to grab right now.
Make no mistake, even when a woman is deeply “in love” with you, her love is not unconditional.
Most likely she’s madly in love with you because you are the man who rocks her world.
She is more concerned with the beauty that you bring to her world rather than your own beauty. (soulful beauty) Men in the contrary would love unconditionally for the same soulful beauty independent of whether that beauty beautifies their world.
Unconditional love is seamlessly entwined with “the one” chimera in our media and culture. Most men walk aimlessly through life searching for “the one.” They can’t find her and perceive themselves as failures.
Women are not naturally concerned with ''the one'', (the media-conferred concept of Prince Charming). Women are concerned with anyone who makes them feel good.
There’s one profoundly simple truth that men need to know: Women leave men they love.
They feel terrible about it. It tears their heart out of them. But they do it. They rally their courage and their resources and they leave. Women leave men with whom they have children, homes, and lives.
And I'm writing this from what I have observed around.
Women leave for many reasons. Reasons I will talk about in some other post.
Man desires a sacrificial love, sacrifice implies loyalty and connection. What men want from love, and what woman’s love amounts to is fundamentally irreconcilable.
In matters of love (and not simply lust,) man is an optimistic egalitarian. He loves as he wishes to be loved. In matters of love, when a man is young and oblivious to the ways of women, he is a true adherent of the golden rule.
The folly of man’s nature lies in the belief that the loyalty quintessential to woman’s maternal instinct will be available within a romantic context.
As such, man has an idealization of woman’s love, not a realization.
Man desires that which is unattainable to him, unaware the love he desires is maternal in nature, unable to be felt for him. Nature plays a cruel trick on the psychology of man. It gives him a very pure, high-quality love in his childhood. It gives him a template for woman’s love that he comes to expect as a standard of all women.
He is taught by his mother’s love that unconditional loyalty, noble character, gentleness, sacrifice, and trust are intrinsic of the feminine essence. And so as he grows from a boy into a man he comes to the rather logical conclusion that if he is “a good man,” he can expect to be loved by his lover in much the same way.
His mother, well-meant but quite incorrectly likewise affirms this notion to him. This is a wicked lie, but a man whose heart is yet to be broken does not realize this. He thinks woman’s love is immutable. He knows not that her love for a child is different from that of her love for him.
Woman’s Love Defined: The epitome of a woman’s love is infatuation. To define it, this is a lust for your power and an obsession with how your character makes her feel, secondary to your power. It is put crudely: opportunism and emotional self-appeasement alchemized with lust.
Man often makes the mistake of thinking that because he can love a woman without lusting after her, that a woman can do the same.
She cannot because her love is not based on sacrifice, it is based on the appreciation of man’s sacrifice met with lust.
The more man sacrifices for a woman, the more likely he is to fall in love with his investment. The more a woman sacrifices for man absent of animal lust, the more repulsion she feels for him.
“When a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.” – Oscar Wilde
